Really evaluate the man first. I came across a video this lady said no guy usually just switches up there’s always signs of him being no good.

In my situation there were millions of signs. I ignored because i didn’t love myself enough to let go. I thought everything he put me through was normal parts of a relationship..

They weren’t now I do everything by myself he’s helped a few times only after I’ve said something he literally just waits around for me to say I need help instead of just doing it right off the bat…

So please please don’t rush to have kids. Idc how amazing the man may seem make sure you see him express every single emotion first before deciding to have kids with him. Their dad has serious anger issues that I knew about before the kids and I chose to ignore it. I didn’t want anyone else but now my 2 girls have witnessed me being screamed at multiple times. I didn’t want them to think any of that was normal so I ended things eventually. He still tried to make me out to be the bad guy he doesn’t look at screaming at me as a big deal.

Also make sure he actually knows how to be a parent and will always do his part. Not half ass do stuff and expect to be acknowledged for something he’s just supposed to do because he’s a parent.. Make sure he isn’t lazy. Make sure he genuinely loves and respects you before wanting to have his kids.

To narrow that down it’s not the guy that’s toxic, not the guy that yells at you, not the one who hits you, not the one who cheats, not the one who abuses you in any wayyy. That should help knock down w good batch.

Be careful not to lay down with just anyway either some of these guys will secretly try to get you pregnant..