Not saying it’ll work for all BUT I’ve been doing this since my daughter was old enough to understand things.

Anyway she’s only 2 but I swear she’s a different kind of child 😂. I explain things to her and also show her THEN I let her decide how she wants to go about doing these things.

1. The potty training process I explained what and where you go to pee and poo then I leave it alone I don’t rush her through anything. I let her decide when she’s ready and guess what she uses it all on her own without my help because I waited on her.

2. Food. She’s old enough to get her own stuff I set everything in the fridge at her reaching level and whenever she’s hungry she gets it herself. Now unless I actually cook and set things out I’ll make her plate but she takes it herself then goes to sit down and watches YouTube kids on her tablet while she’s eating.

3. Exploring/trying new things. When I see her climb on stuff or try to reach for things, etc I just sit back and closely observe her to make sure she doesn’t get hurt. But I don’t intervene unless she asks me for help. Since I’ve done that I noticed she’s become more independent and if she can’t figure it out she tries other options and eventually one of them works for her 😆. Like her chair is her buddy she uses it a lot when she sees me cooking or washing dishes. I let her help me as well.

Bottom line is don’t rush anything with your kids. They’re their own person let them figure things out and If they can’t let them try other options before coming in to help them I guarantee you they’ll start doing way more. They might even show you something you never even knew they were aware about. My oldest has done that to me countless times and each time I was just impressed on how creative she was even if she made a big mess while doing it.

If you allow your children to go at their own pace with everything you’ll see that it’s less stressful than for you to sit there forcing them to do things a certain way. Let them explore, be curious, ask questions, make messes while figuring out new things, even let them fall down a few times and try again.

Of course she would get worked up during all of this, throw tantrums, cry etc but I’d just tell her to come here and say “it’s okay just keep trying you’ll figure it out you can do it” “stop getting mad at yourself take your time”. Then I’d give her a hug and she’d go right back to trying to figure out how to do something new😂.

Let them be independent. Children are capable of a lot of great things when we step back and let them figure it out on their own. Thank you for reading💚 #Motherhood101